“This Modest Mom” and Modern Homophobia

This is in response to this post. In essence, this Christian mother is boycotting Disney and the new Beauty and the Beast film because she thinks they are pushing an “LGBT Agenda” and Jesus told her she isn’t allowed to spend money on things that show queer people as being normal.

So maybe I ad-libbed a little bit up there, but if you read her post, you’ll see exactly what I mean. This post will serve the purpose of tearing apart any argument she thinks she has while also, hopefully, educating people about what homophobia looks like in the modern day. Because, kids, I have news for you: Homophobia isn’t just beating up gay people. It comes in many, many ridiculous forms. I am now going to break down some of what she said in her “think piece”so you can all get a feel for it.

She prefaces her post with this:

“I may not agree with your choices, but I love all people, no matter your race, ethnicity, political beliefs and/or lifestyle choices.”

That gets torn apart at the end of this post, by the way, after I have my say on everything else.

“I know that the LGBT community pleaded for Elsa to make the ‘turn’ too. But we went to Disney just last year.

The difference? We made the choice to not watch Good Luck Charlie. I won’t visit Disney during gay-week. And if Elsa were to make an ‘announcement’ we would no longer be Frozen fans either.”

There comes a point where you have to take a stand for the things you believe in, this is my stand.

Okay. Let me start by saying this: I admire that she’ll take a stand for her beliefs. I think that’s an important quality to have. But also, her beliefs are wrong and outdated and she should work on changing them before she has to boycott the entire world.

If you can admit that media has a big enough role in ideologies and changing minds, then you can probably admit that in many ways, your feelings towards gay people are not your own, but of the people and things that socialized you. And who knows? Maybe Disney is trying to make up for all of their past nonsense where they queer-coded all of their villains. *shrugs*

Disney isn’t just aiming their efforts towards parent’s of Disney-aged children anymore. They are pointing a desperate finger at the innocence of our youth. Disney is targeting our youth like they’re aiming at big game on a corporate hunting trip. They are banking on corrupting the purity of a child’s mind for the 1%. They are no longer making watching a choice, but by forcing it to become mainstream, Disney is telling the conservative family, the Christian public, that they’re views hold no worth. In jest, they’re subtly encouraging you to conform your ways. (Mark 13:22)

At this point, Disney is proudly looming over your morals and values and eerily cackling like a villain in one of their own classic fairy tales.

This was my favorite.  The “innocence of our youth” isn’t corrupted by homosexuality. It’s corrupted by ignorance and people who are…corrupt. We (queer people) aren’t using these children as means to an end of a fully queer world (however nice that may be). We’re simply proving that we exist and that we should be represented and accounted for in the media. And NOT as the villains. You hear that Disney? Implying that showing a queer character is immoral, essentially equating homosexuality to immorality or bad value

Her other statement is also implying that showing a queer character is immoral, essentially equating homosexuality to immorality or bad values. Are the big bad queers really coming for her children’s morals? I think if anyone using the Bible as their guide to life, there’s enough corruption to go around without me and my queer brothers and sisters. Did she forget that the Bible sanctions slavery and encourages misogyny?

Bible: “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church. . . .” (Ephesians 5:22&23)

I do love me some good ol’ unchecked Christian values that don’t respect how times have changed.

Leviticus 15: 19 “Whenever a woman has her menstrual period, she will be ceremonially unclean for seven days. Anyone who touches her during that time will be unclean until evening.

15:20 Anything on which the woman lies or sits during the time of her period will be unclean.

15:21 If any of you touch her bed, you must wash your clothes and bathe yourself in water, and you will remain unclean until evening.

This mother has a daughter. I wonder if she’s going to raise her to feel “ceremonially unclean” every time she has her period. Imagine her father goes to give her a hug while she’s on her period? How disgusting. Now he’s unclean, too! Might as well lock women away for the week. We don’t want to risk anything. But I digress.

Next Disney will be talking about teen sex and abortions in efforts to normalize these issues to children as well- I guess you can pretty much tell that I’m pro-life and believe that sex isn’t appropriate outside of marriage. It really shouldn’t be surprising.

Boy, oh boy, there’s a lot to unpack here. She wants to fight against the normalization and acceptance of queer people in society and thus in media, solely because of her religion (which I have respect for, but it is not acceptable as a point of argument). And thus I ask: Why shouldn’t queerness be normalized? What about it is abnormal?

I don’t want to hear that homosexuality isn’t normal because it isn’t acceptable. A logical argument would take place the other way around. If you can prove that my identity is unacceptable because it’s abnormal, well that’s another story (though I am doubtful of anyone finding good evidence of this.)

Also, the issue of whether or not queer people should be represented in media is not the same, at all, as the issues of teen sex and abortion. Stop teaching your children that queerness is solely about sex.
No one is spoon feeding queerness to her children. She only sees it that way. That’s the same argument so many people have: “Why do you need to be so blatantly queer?” We aren’t forcing it on people. We’re merely existing and trying to be equally represented. She’s uncomfortable about ONE character in the movie Beauty and the Beast. Just one!  That’s usually all queer people get, by the way. I grew up surrounded by cisgender, hetersexual media full of characters that were nothing like. We get just one measly character. So why is that such an outrage to her?

Let’s let our children be children. Don’t include them in your efforts to create a politically correct stance.

Note: If Disney reconsidered their stance, I would be first in line to reschedule our Disney Vacation!

That line about letting children be children? It’s crap. Children don’t look at gay people and think about how they have sex. They just don’t. They just see people in love, and if they don’t understand it because they’ve never seen it before, all the more reason to introduce them to it. Because guess what? The real world has gay people. You can boycott the movie, and you can boycott Disney world, but in doing so, you are teaching your kids that “the queers” are doing something wrong in some way. That’s why her saying she loves and accepts all people is false. You can not love and accept all people if you love some of those people differently or accept some of them any less. You cannot expect people to be okay with that line of reasoning,
I want to also say that she has her right to free speech. I have a great respect for our rights as individuals and would never wish to impede upon them. People are allowed to voice their opinions on all types of subjects, but that doesn’t make it right, and that doesn’t mean we aren’t allowed to fight against it. Her right to free speech extends only to the government, and many people don’t understand that. Your free speech ends where my rights begin.
I’ve heard some awful shit from my family about black people and Muslim people, and that’s the mentality of my house and of many people across the country. It’s their opinion, but their opinions are objectively wrong, and so it is our right and our duty to speak up against this kind of very blatant ignorance and homophobia. We shouldn’t be supporting her right to have blatant homophobia in her household. What if her child ends up being gay and is afraid to come out? So many queer kids kill themselves or end up homeless because of unsupportive families. The very last thing we need is more parents like her and people saying this nonsense is okay.
Lastly, I want to apologize to the woman who wrote this. I am sorry you were indoctrinated by people who clearly have no respect for the changing of time. I’m sorry of what might one day come of your family if you don’t change your beliefs because your daughter will probably change her mind about all of the things you force her to believe. I’m sorry that your definitions of love and acceptance are not the correct ones. I’m sorry that you clearly never had any queer friends whom you felt comfortable enough to talk to about these views of yours. I want to apologize for all of the hate mail you’ve received because anger isn’t the way to go. I love and accept you despite your clear disapproval of who I am, and I would love if you decided to educate yourself and break the cycle of ignorance. I think you’ll find a much happier life is waiting for you on the other side of that door.

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